Remember: Nothing negative in the first 5 minutes of any reunion...after several hours apart~You should always experience the first 5 as warm, welcoming, sharing, caring, and offering to help the other in some way. This will set the tone for the rest of the day/night.
NEVER attack the other persons feelings~ character or intelligence. Mockery, belittlement, demoralizing, etc. Is **never** forgotten.
Allow runaway disagreements to defuse~ Each agrees to a predetermined amount of time to think about each others point of view and return with a fresh perspective.
Take it private~ Never fight in front of friends, family, or especially your children. They will form opinions without knowing all the facts and "someone" becomes the bad guy. The onlookers feel like they must take sides
NO Winner... NO Loser ~ Always end the "event" with both of you walking away with your dignity in tact.
Never let the sun set on a disagreement~ Come to terms before your go to bed. Tomorrow is a fresh start.
Pray~ For understanding and guidance, together. If the issue seems too heavy...ask for support before it breaks the back of your marriage.
Always agree in front of the child ~ to the way one parent is disciplining until you are in private. The child learns quickly how to stop listening to the "stupid" parent.
Children are sponges~ They see anger and violence, they view it as a normal way to handle a problem. Personally and socially.
Remember ~ When you marry, you aren't just living with your best friend. You are living with the one you can't live without.
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